Addiction has claimed it’s territory within my family. And you know what, I am not ashamed of this. I do not hide from it and I speak openly about it. Even though I’ve spoke out and supported them through their addictions, many do not. Many people are ashamed of the addict in their family. Many people hide the fact that addiction has affected them in some way. I don’t. I am not ashamed. I did nothing to make my loved ones addicts, and neither did any other members of our family.
ADDICTION IS LIKE A HURRICANE.
It doesn’t destroy based on wealth or social status. It doesn’t pick it’s victims based on what their home life is. Addiction doesn’t discriminate. Addiction begins at one moment of choice. Addiction destroys not only the individual but also takes a piece of their loved ones in the process. Time and time again, I see parents blame themselves for the paths their children choose. Ashamed that they cannot free their children from their addictions. It’s sad that more often than not, I see parents try convincing themselves that their child’s addiction was 100% their fault as parents. They truly believe that had he been better parents, better providers and better people that their children wouldn’t have stuck a needle in their arm. Because shame is such a painful emotion, most people will do anything to avoid it. So, what’s their solution may you ask?
THEY THROW ADDICTION TO THE BACK OF THEIR CLOSET LIKE A DAMN PAIR OF OLD RIPPED JEANS. AND THIS MY FRIENDS, IS BULLSHIT.
In and of itself, this illustrates one major problem our country has with the concept of addiction in today’s society. The judging and shame that goes along with an addiction needs to be obliterated. I can almost guarantee that the vast majority of people who read this post has an addict or substance abuser in the family or is struggling themselves. I can also guarantee that most reading this are normal, law abiding citizens who love their families. Right? You probably live in a house, have a job, and treat people well. The majority of addicts have families like ours.
SO WHY DON’T PEOPLE TALK ABOUT THIS DISEASE?
Everyone hides their addict in the corner, dealing with the problem all by themselves. The addicts fight the battle, some live, some die, and most people stay quiet. And I think it’s ironic that this country’s War on Drugs is the longest and most drawn out war in history if you think about it. Our perception of addiction needs to change for any movement in this stagnant war. Families need to start talking about these problems. Free from shame or a fear of being judged. Out in the open.
The shame of addiction must be eliminated for any change in this disease that is silently, slowly killing our country. Starting now, people need to understand that the shame of addiction can be stopped. All it takes is for people like you and me to speak up. WE NEED TO STOP JUDGING EACH OTHER in order to find a solution to this devastating whirlwind of a disease.