Recovery Means Strength, Courage & Forgiveness
The sooner you forgive yourself the better off you’ll be. I’ve met many recovering addicts who can’t seem to forgive themselves, even after years in recovery. They become so used to carrying that guilt around that sometimes they don’t even know how much it’s really affecting their lives. It affects things like self-worth and what they believe they deserve. Consequently, they pass up many amazing opportunities because they don’t think they deserved them. Society is constantly bombarding people with what it means to be an addict. These views are full of stigma, negative stereotypes, and prejudice. Unfortunately, addicts slowly begin to associate these negative beliefs of what it means to be an addict to who they really are, or who they can be as a person. These views ultimately prevent addicts from making the most of their lives. They experience an overwhelming amount of guilt, become insecure and often feel ‘less than’ the people around them. It really frustrates me when those around me are unable to see or understand that these people are more than their addictions.
Struggling with addiction doesn’t make you weak or foolish, it makes you human.
In order to forgive yourself for being an addict, you need to reclaim what it means to be an addict. Only recovering addicts know what it means, and only you should be able to give it meaning in your life. Beating yourself up for the mistakes you made while using is hard enough, but at least with that guilt you can find ways to make amends for it. Being a recovering addict will help you develop great qualities that you should be proud of. You’ve survived extremely difficult situations and have become very capable, even if you don’t always believe it. You know the importance of giving people second chances because getting your second chance is important to you. You’re caring and compassionate towards other people who are struggling.
Everyone needs to stop believing that being a recovering addict is a bad thing. It’s ok to make mistakes-everyone does. Anyone capable of overcoming addiction is a strong person. Being a recovering addict is an asset, not something you should be ashamed of.