Experiencing Your Moment of Clarity
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head tells you, “enough is enough.” This is your awakening, this is your clarity. You will realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change. Unlike Cinderella, your “happily ever after” must begin with you. Once you find the courage to accept yourself and everything you’ve been through in your life- you will find serenity. You will realize that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are and it’s ok because they are all entitled to their opinions.
You will then learn to stop bitching and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do), and you will learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You will learn that not everyone will always be there for you, and that it’s not always about you. So, you’ll learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security will come to you.
You will stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are, and to over look their shortcomings. You will then realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into by others in your past. You’ll soon begin to sift through all the crap you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, what you should wear, how and where you should live, what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with-and the list goes on. But you will rethink all that you’ve been told, because you have your own opinions now.
You will learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you will begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You will learn the difference between wanting and needing. You’ll be capable of distinguishing between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. Soon you will understand that feelings of entitlement are perfectly ok- that it is your right to want things, and that sometimes making demands is necessary. You will soon realize that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect, and you will not settle for less. From there, you will begin to understand that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you will learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. You will learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it, and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms.
You will learn to fight for your life and not to live under a cloud of impending doom. Soon you’ll understand that life isn’t always fair, that you don’t always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes, bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You will learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It’s just life happening.
You will learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you and and others in your life. You will learn to admit when you are wrong and to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things you take for granted. Slowly, you’ll begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself, and in doing so, you will be making a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than you deserve. Make it a point to keep smiling, keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.