“If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free. Even when you don’t really want it for them, and your prayers are only words and you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway. Do it every day for two weeks and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love.”
Step Back and Reflect
Anger is the feeling I get when I am not getting my way today. Resentment is the feeling I get when I didn’t get my way yesterday. Fear is the feeling I get when I think I won’t get my way tomorrow. And depression is the feeling I get when I think that I never get my way. I have experienced every one of these emotions in recent times, just as I’m sure many of you have as well. I think having resentments makes life so much more difficult than it should be. After I experience what I perceive as being wronged by someone, at first I usually feel anger or frustration. After thinking about what really happened, and experiencing the anger or anxiety again and again, just as most people, I find myself being pushed towards the next stage-one full of resentments. Over a short period of time, as I playback the suspected harm in my head, I become less and less involved in what happened and the other person(s) become more and more to blame.
If we can’t let the incident go without moving past anger, life becomes increasingly difficult, especially situations related to these resentments. I’m sure “no one” here can relate. You can’t fool me here people. When old ideas and the emotions they generate come to the surface, we have the tools to change them. All we really need to do is change our thoughts. And the good part about it is- thoughts can be changed. A good feeling follows a good thought right? When we change our attitude about a person, place or situation- we get rewarded. Who wouldn’t rather feel peaceful, joyous and happy than resentful, fearful and sad? Think about it this way- if you can pray for and bless those who wronged you, you will then create positive changes in yourself.
After realizing these personal resentments you will find peace in working towards positive changes within yourself-and this my friends, will bring you more freedom than you can imagine.