When you are actively drinking and using, you tend to make associates rather than friends. The people you surrounded yourself with typically had something to offer you, or you probably had something to offer them, right? When you got together, it was primarily to drink or use; otherwise you had little in common? Even in a room full of people you probably felt strangely alone. When you were in a tough situation, were these people anywhere to be found?
In recovery, you begin to learn the true meaning of friendship. Although social interactions may be uncomfortable at first, you begin to connect with people around you. As you learn more about your interests, your views, and your overall self, you begin to find people that share things in common with you-beyond the need to use substances.
THE FRIENDSHIPS YOU BUILD IN RECOVERY ARE ESPECIALLY BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE THEY TEACH YOU WHAT IT MEANS TO BE – AND HAVE – A TRUE FRIEND.
One of the greatest things about the friendships you build in recovery is the selflessness of them. For the first time in a long time, neither party expects to get anything from the other person. The connection is based solely on a bond between personalities, and is not conditional. There are no ulterior motives-only pure friendship. These are the people you can laugh with, have real conversations and experience life with. These are the people you learn lessons and make memories with. Naturally there is some give and take within a friendship, but instead of this always being a material exchange, it is more often an exchange of love, support, and advice. When you need someone they’ll be there, just like you will be there for them. You’ll be able to share the experiences you’ve had and the lessons you’ve learned, and vice versa.
I think the types of friends you make in recovery can sometimes act as a mirror. They will allow you to see things about yourself that you may not have noticed before. They may have the ability to awaken parts of you that you forgot you ever had-whether it be your sense of humor or the ability to just be silly with other people. These new friends will openly vocalize how much they appreciate you, or it may just be apparent in their behavior and the fact that they continually choose to spend time with you. You may find that these people are capable of teaching you things about life and how to handle tough situations. In the end, because they were there and helped you through troubled times, they made it possible for you to believe in yourself.
HOLD ONTO THESE PEOPLE-THEY’RE CAPABLE OF SHOWING YOU LIFELONG FRIENDSHIP, LOVE AND SUPPORT.